“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I —
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
― The Road Not Taken
My Journey of Professional Self-Differentiation
On numerous occasions I have been asked some variation of the question “How does a Board-Certified Psychiatrist become a Bowen Family Systems Theory Relationship Coach and Consultant, and then a Mindfulness-Based Workshop Facilitator and Teacher?” So I’ll tell you. By learning to watch the emotional process.
- Are you struggling to show up and be present in loving relationship?
- Are you struggling with sex, intimacy or romance issues?
- Are you struggling with the aftermath of relationship betrayal?
All trainees at Family Institute of Westchester are coached in a process known as “Therapist’s Own Family”. As a result, I have experienced the anxiety and avoidance, the emotional impasses and seemingly immovable triangles, and the negative reactivity and pushback of working on differentiation of self.
- Would you like to reduce chronic stress and anxiety?
- Would you like to learn how to communicate more effectively?
- Would you like to learn how to better manage conflict?
Part two of the answer, by learning to pause. The issue is never the issue. The issue is almost always the inability to find a solution. Engaging in mindful awareness practices can help us develop the ability to pause when stimulated or triggered, and step back from habitual patterns of reactivity.
I initially encountered Mindfulness-Based Interventions in teaching retreats at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies. Troubling thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, and behavioral urges are hard wired in. We can’t keep them from arising but we can learn to choose how to consciously respond to them. The practice of Mindful Relationships provides a platform for maximum growth and understanding.
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